Dating a less attractive man

And Now, I'm certainly not going to put myself into the same camp with the Julia Roberts and Padmas of the world...

I've welcomed men into my bed who were short, fat, or balding (sometimes all three), while I, thankfully, am none of those things.

Despite those relationships not working out in the long run, they did end up being some of the most rewarding dating experiences I've had.

The guys mostly look like Gary Busey after a three-day doughnut-and-bourbon bender. Like many of us—on every point along the gender spectrum—I spent my formative years experimenting with just how much stupidity, selfishness, and humorlessness I could tolerate for the sake of dating hotties.

But I quickly gleaned that life spent in the company of a self-serving simpleton is no life at all. Yes, we started out shallow, now we're here: As women mature, we rarely see our partner's appearance as a measure of our own value, in stark contrast to those men who try to distract us from their deep-seated insecurities by dragging an extra-shiny, much-hotter lady friend around with them like an overpriced designer handbag.

Brangelina, the Bennifers, the Hiddleswifts, the Teigen-Legends: We get it.

All of your charming tales about having so much in common ("He ? But this being an aspirational magazine for men, let's stick to the former.) The mystery intensifies when the lady in question is not only gorgeous but also smart, funny, and wildly successful, and the guy in question is a scruffy-looking dude with a dad bod, a nonexistent career, and a bad habit of showing up to red-carpet events looking like he just got off a fifteen-hour flight from Mongolia. There are unquestionably more beautiful women in the world than there are handsome men.

Granted, we all know that the most attractive and sexy women typically get the most attention from men.

But are those really the women that men end up marrying?

(Timely case in point: our newish president, whose ego is more fragile than a Ming vase and whose looks are ten thousand leagues under Melania's sea.)At a time when women look better, value appearance less, and don't feel the need to prop up their sense of self-worth with arm candy as men do, perhaps it's only natural to encounter mismatched-looking couples roaming about, openly challenging Darwin's views of sexual selection.

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