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Her excuse was that she is moving to a different dorm at her campus and that she wants to meet Wednesday.So I scheduled it and then just waited until Wednesday. It's going to try and fit into one of the two boxes — a relationship or a more casual thing.

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So what happens when you're in a “casual hookup,” but it feels like more?

It's a known space, an understood agreement, a commonplace feature of the hook-up culture.

These discussions aren’t all that different from those of generations past: pick up lines have always been picked apart and the art of the voicemail analyzed by singles long before the advent of texting.

And many of the old, gendered traditions of who reaches out to whom and when have (for better or worse) persisted.

Instead, it sits between the casual box and the boyfriend box, occupying grey matter of unclaimed space that's making us all, well, uncomfortable. It's booty calls and drunk hookups (that doesn't necessarily mean just weekends).

One of the boxes we perpetually find ourselves in, however, doesn't make the list. It's a myth created by horny Hollywood executives who needed a reason to cast Mila Kunis and Natalie Portman in opposing movies about sex to see if they were ready for “Black Swan.”To be completely honest, the casual hookup is just a polite way of saying “two people currently on Tinder.” It's sex and social media. We are the generation of laissez-faire souls who thrive off meaningless sex with good-looking people.I'm talking about those unspoken rules our generation places around dating.My friend, who lived strictly by the rule that you should not double text for fear of looking too “thirsty,” as the kids call it, was aghast. My now-boyfriend has been teased for “texting like a girl,” but it was immediately one of my favorite things about him.I am an effusive texter, and in past relationships I would get frustrated when my multi-text theses would be answered with “yeah” or “sure.” I needed someone who was just as willing to give themselves carpal tunnel as I was.What I found was that there is a certain point near the end of the texting interaction that can make or break the meet up.

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