What to do in the early stages of dating
They unknowingly sabotage the potential for having a great relationship before it even gets off the ground.
It’s highly likely if you’ve been around the dating block a few times, that you’ve ghosted–I know I have.
The pleaser in me felt as if I ‘should’ reciprocate interest but I didn’t want to.
I feared making him feel bad (because would then feel bad), as well as confrontation, so I ignored his texts/calls about a third date.
Several months later, he’s stood on the opposite tube platform and I hid beneath my carriage window cringing with shame.
This is the exact point where a woman has to completely resist the urge to pursue him.
She has to give him the space to pull away so that he will become even more interested in her.
After that I vowed not to dodge texts and calls and I stuck to it, even when he was a Mr Persistent.
I knew with the latter that my only option was to be direct rather than dodging and once I knew that I’d been direct, I was free to ignore any texts or calls after that.
The first thing that should happen if it has not happened during the initiation of the relationship is that intentions should be established.
Whatever that conversation looks like, intentions should be clear and it should be the man making them so.
Ghosting is especially rife in the early stages of dating because in a time where someone might juggle multiple contacts due to apps and websites, or where their heads are easily turned due to a plenty of fish in the sea mentality, some argue that surely they can’t be expected to break up with or at least give a heads-up to each person they date. And actually, it’s also fair to say that not everyone wants to hear back from every date that doesn’t work out.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating